Thursday, 1 February 2018

RELATIONSHIP :WHY HE IS TAKING YOU FOR GRANTED

There's been a post trending on social media and I'm sure almost everyone has seen it, but if you're among the few people that haven't seen it then here it is...

"I've seen men leave 5-10 year relationships,  turn around and get married to a woman he's known for 6 months. And does all the things he's ex begged him to do. Word of advice, stop preaching to these men, they hear you. He's not going to ever be the man you want him to be because you're not the woman he wants to be with. People change for who they want!! Period."

A lot of ladies think it's their fault when the relationship doesn't work out. They constantly ask themselves what they did wrong, if they should have lost that extra 10 pounds, if they should have been more submissive, quit their careers, become his sex doll etc. But most of the time it has nothing to do with you! Nigga just got bored of you!

Now, picture this with me....
You meet this new guy, he's sweet and nice, unbelievably caring and all, charming, cute, listens to you, rubs your foot at the end of a stressful day blah blah....  So you fall for him (you know us gals, we fall for silly things don't blame us ☺). It's 6 months in and everything is still perfect, you can't believe how blessed and lucky you are! Let's fast forward to 3 years into the relationship. Over familiarity has set in, you now feel so comfortable, you let things slide. You don't have a life of your own without him. Boys night out you go with him. You drink with him. You cancel your schedule to fit with his. You literally cut almost everyone you know out. You cook. Do the whole wifey duties and all.....  You see where we are going here? Good.

YOU CAN'T KEEP TREATING A MAN LIKE A BABY AND EXPECT HIM TO ACT LIKE A MAN!

DON'T CANCEL OUT ON LIFE BECAUSE YOU WANT TO SPEND EVERY MOMENT WITH HIM!

DON'T BECOME SOMEONE YOU'RE NOT CAUSE THAT'S WHAT HE WANTS!

We all make these mistakes at one point in our relationship lives then we wonder why he's now treating us like his drinking buddy!
He's taking you for granted because you let him. Remember how you were at the beginning? Had a voice of yours? had friends of yours? had a career or school? You had a life before him! So you can still have a life after him!

Don't stay in a relationship because of the idea of being in a relationship. Stay in a relationship because you're happy, loved and in love, and because of every right reason!

Don't let a guy treat you like crap. The minute you start a life of your own, make friends, travel, just take a break from that guy who's taking you for granted and watch him go back to that sweet man he was at the beginning. But if he doesn't, then he never was yours. Your man is out there, but don't put your life on hold waiting for him!

And honey, treat yourself with respect!


XX.
Ucheyy.

2 comments:

  1. I feel like crying....i can actually relate... Sometimes when we girls love guys, we tend to show all the love possible forgetting that its not what keeps a man....ive experienced same and ive learnt from it....nice work dear..#word

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  2. Wooooowwwwww.....I dunno what to say Darling.This piece is simply amazing. Godbless u.

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